Bogenhofen: The Drama Continues

   Norway was a great last hurrah, but of course, I couldn't leave Europe on such a high note. Remember when I wrote that whole post about "Tom" and all of the drama surrounding his inappropriate behavior? Well, while I was packing my room, my teacher came into and berated me for what I had done. She shamed me for having gotten my professor involved and having sent an email. She told me all the reasons my judgment was wrong all while professing that she just wanted to "get my perspective on the issue." Apparently, they had decided to have a meeting with Tom the next day. I thought it was convenient that they were waiting until both Tom and I were about to leave to talk to either of us about the situation. 

   I was offended that my teacher had chosen to come talk to me at a vulnerable moment when I was already stressed and busy. It was inappropriate and she should have scheduled a proper meeting with me. My professor had expressed his concerns with me in Greece when I said no no one had talked to me yet. I told her straight out that, respectfully, she had had three months to schedule a meeting to get my perspective and she had neglected to do that. I told her that it was an inappropriate time for her to do this and that I had to clean and pack before I went home. I suggested that she schedule a zoom meeting with me when I was back in the states. Yeah, she didn't take me up on that offer. I know that she wanted to catch me off guard and get me to take everything back. She kept leading me back in circles no matter how many times I repeated the sentences, "Everything I wanted to say is in the email I sent. Please refer back to it," or, "I don't want to discuss this right now, I've already said what I wanted to say." 

   Forty minutes passed of her dragging me in circles while I kindly asked her to leave. Eventually, I basically had to "push" her out of my room and close the door in her face. She had made me feel so flustered and humiliated that I almost felt guilty for "kicking" her out. Then I realized that I am an adult now, and I have the right to stand up for myself if need be and what she did was totally inappropriate. It was unfair and insulting. I know she was angry at me because I had left a paper trail. She clearly felt the need to justify her actions, but to come shove it in my face at a moment when my guard was down was quite frankly, cruel. Besides, if she didn't feel like there was an issue with Tom, thats fine. As an administrative officer, she has the right to make that call and I'll respect that, but there was no reason for her to come and try and justify her own actions to me. 

   As I'm sure you can imagine, this left me with a pretty sour taste in my mouth, which is so unfortunate. I think that Bogenhofen is a good school with a lot of good things to offer and I wish that my relationship with it didn't have to be so conflicting. I know that I have a tendency to rub against certain authorities, so I'm sure that there were things that I blew out of proportion. If it weren't for the serious safety concerns that were overlooked, I would probably say that Bogenhofen just wasn't the right fit for me. 

   I learned later that she had written an email to my professor along the same lines. Seeing that this is how the school chose to handle the situation, as it is, their are deeper issues that make me wary to recommend the school to prospect students.